Good Shepherd
Initiative

FREE Since 1983

Sid Galloway BS, M.Div. (Biograhical Information)
Just an OLD sheepdog
of our Good Shepherd Creator Christ

Ask the animals,
and they will teach you,
.. Which of all these
does not know
that the LORD's hand
has done this?
In His hand is the
soul (nephesh)
of every creature and the breath of all mankind"
Job 12:7-9

Worldview
of your
Good Shepherd
Creator: Christ
Human Trafficking & Slavery
Don't Just Happen
(Jesus said in Mark 7:21-23)

Would a "good" God design
"survival of the fittest"
as His WAY?
(Isaiah 65:25)

Rights - Any discussion about human rights (slavery, oppression) or animal rights (cruelty, abuse) must first address our Creator's rights. He has the right to command how we treat both His people and His animals.

Scotty the Good Shepherd
Service Sheepdog


3 Videos Animal Friends * *
Otis ----- Zoe ---- River


Suzy service-dog genius
(more below)

Responsibilities - Jesus said the root cause of suffering in this world is a distorted view of and/or the rejection of the true WAY of our Creator. (John 8:1-59)

sidotter


"Squirt" the Otter


Releasing rehabbed critters


Atchafalaya Swamp

Mistakes - Man's self-serving, misguided, mischaracterizations of God have historically led to personal and cultural conflict, corruption, and collapse.

Hope - Discovering the WHO?, the WHY?, and the "WAY"? of origins is the foundation for true transformation.

Mike's "service-frog"


Therapy Zorse & Zeedonk

Change - Truly lasting change for individuals and cultures must begin at the cornerstone - the Creator of creation.


Darwin's Self-image
by Mike Galloway


Formal"Boatie" - Lizaboa

"Then I looked again
at all the acts of oppression
which were being done
under the sun.
And behold I saw
the tears
of the oppressed
and that they had
no one to comfort them;
and on the side of their
oppressors was power,
but they had
no one to comfort them."
Ecclesiastes 4:1


Wild Rory - paralyzed by gun shot yet grateful
for loving care

raccoon_river_sidarms


L'l River raccoon


"Flower"


Candy-cane corn snake


Opossum Brothers:
Tom & Jerry


Brother Tom


Animal-Assisted GSI



Scotty my service dog
assistant :-)


Scotty doing his job well


God's living teddy-bears


Missing the old days


My Proverbs 31 wife
meeting my old girlfriend, elephant "Jean"


Old friends Jean & Panya meet my daughter


Jean meets her keeper's son



Mandy Clouded Leopard who saved me from suicide


My morning greeters
Akela & Rakshi
Back in the den they'd beg me to rub their heads
to start the day.


Shiva -my PTSD leopard
raised by humans, terrified of other leopards


Bratar:the cowardly lion


Rani: Bratar's sister :-(

Banu - my favorite comedian who loved to prank people


Candra, Banu's mom


Banu teasing Candra


Byomi asking for a treat


Ali the bitter black panther who learned love


Zoe: disabled squirrel
born with no tail / only 3 feet
- even more lovable


Scotty meets his first gator


Marriage in Christ


Suzy protecting her rescued puppy


Molly the semi-blind Opossum Lady


Little Blue
- transferred to Fed. rehab


Big Red
- gunshot wound


Baby Huey acting tough


Scotty's piggy


Rescuing Stubby
(see his Facebook page)


Audubon Zoo memories


Lizaboa Animal Assistant


David & elephant Panya


Mr. Galloway
Old Sheepdog


Charlie
Russian Legless Lizard


Hawk - Barron
powerful talons


Otis - hit by car


Little River as a baby


Little River
working on the lock

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



 

 

 

 

 

 


 

 

 

 

 

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Church Discipline:

When God's Holy Love
Requires More Than Words

Presented at the Nat'l Assoc. of Nouthetic Counselors Conference 2002
To order the audio tape, contact http://www.soundword.com

(See also: Forgiveness, Counseling Resources, Personal Counseling, Family Counseling, Disability Purposes, DisabilityResources)

* See also: Church as a Father-Focused Family

Sadly, the motto of many "modern" churches is:
"Hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil - it's none of our business"
*Even when an abusive husband or drunk mom needs to be stopped

Seven Simple Steps for Loving Accountability
(Simple, yet not easy)

1. Cover (1 Pet 4:8)
2. Confront (Mat 18:15)
3. Confirm (Mat 18:16)
4. Condemn (Mat 18:17)
5. Cutoff (Mat 18:17)
6. Continue (Mat 5:43-48)
7. Rest (Mat 11:28-30)

Background Issues:

* There are many excellent resources listed at the end, for more in-depth study.
* This is the backbone of the Body of Christ, and a body without a spine is a jellyfish.
* This is the immune system of the Body of Christ, protecting from sin'sinfection.
-- Without it, the Church suffers with spiritual AIDS - open to every infection
*  Some may say, "It’s none of your business", but sin directly impacts our Father’s reputation.

"Individuals now claim an enormous zone of personal privacy and moral autonomy.  The congregation - redefined as a mere voluntary association - has no right to intrude into this space.  Many congregations have forfeited any responsibility to confront even the most public sins of their members.  Consumed with pragmatic methods of church growth and congregational engineering, most churches leave moral matters to the domain of the individual conscience."  (p. 17)

"The mandate of the church is to maintain true gospel doctrine and order.  A church lacking these essential qualities is, biblically defined, not a true church.  that is a hard thing to say, for it clearly indicts thousands of American congregations who long ago abandoned this essential mark and have accommodated themselves to the spirit of the age." 

(p. 26) (The Southern Baptist Journal of Theology, Vol. 4, No. 4, Winter 2000 Church Discipline, "Church Discipline:  The Missing Mark", by R. Albert Mohler, Jr., Ph.D., president of Southern Baptist Theological Seminary.)

    Why did Jesus insist that "Christian" counseling function within the wider context of loving accountability, conditional confidentiality, and potential discipline? What happens to the counseling relationship if it's totally disconnected from these vital dimensions of God's design for local churches? Does the process really "work"? How can your church and counseling ministry do a better job of practicing God's principles of church accountability for His glory and the benefit of others?

© L.E.A.D. toward restoration & maturity in Christ, for God's glory:
(Who is to lead? 
Government officials, pastors, husbands, parents, employers, teachers, etc.)

- Loving (Mat 22:36-40; Joh 13:34-35; Rom 13:8-10; 1 Co 12-14; Gal 5:14)
- Equipping (Rom 1:12; Col 2:2; 1 Th 3:1-2; 5:14; 2 Ti 3:15-17)
- Accountability (Mat 18:15-20; 28:18-20; 2 Tim 2:1-4; Titus 2:3-5)
- Discipline (Mat 18:15-20; 1 Co 5:9-13)

Why & When to L.E.A.D.? 
Matthew 20:20 ff.  When a Christian is in a position of authority, he or she is to lead as Christ, not the way of the world.  If you love and equip, but do not exercise accountability and discipline, your leadership is unbiblical and will fail to honor God, benefit others, and bring you joy.  Likewise, if you focus on accountability and discipline, and neglect loving and equipping, then your leadership will fail just the same.  And please do not fall for the modern myth of mutual submission.  A parent for example is to be loving and kind, but never submit to the children.  Jesus submitted to human authorities, because His first coming to the world was not yet as the King of Kings, and Lord of Lords. 

* I strongly urge you to read the article/chapter below:

"Myth of Mutual Submission"

by Wayne Grudem PhD - renowned biblical scholar

  • B.A., Harvard University
  • M.Div., Westminster Theological Seminary
  • Ph.D., University of Cambridge

Experience

Dr. Grudem became Research Professor of Theology and Biblical Studies at Phoenix Seminary in 2001 after teaching at Trinity Evangelical Divinity School for 20 years. He has served as the President of the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, as President of the Evangelical Theological Society (1999), and as a member of the Translation Oversight Committee for the English Standard Version of the Bible. He also served as the General Editor for the ESV Study Bible (Crossway Bibles, 2008).

Leadership Positions

Here is the BOOK from which the chapter was taken:
Foundations for Biblical Manhood & Womanhood

Why & When to F.O.L.L.O.W.? 
Sadly, some children today have learned by example from their mothers and fathers, the modern motto of "NO RESPECT, NO FEAR, NO RULES".  Yet Scripture says that the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom.  Scripture teaches that all human authorities, yes even unbelieving ones, are in their position because God sovereignly allowed it.  They are therefore His delegated authorities to ensure some level of order in this sinful world (Rom 13).  We are to honor and fearfully respect all of them as unto the Lord.  We are to obey them, unless they command us to violate a higher command.  If such a sinful command is given, then we are to humbly and respectfully appeal directly to that sinful authority, and if that does not change the situation, then we can and sometimes must appeal above that sinful authority to higher human authorities.  Remember, a person in rank under an authority, is never to "rebuke" that authority, who represents God's hand.  The process of appeal is the only biblically, Christ-honoring method of dealing with a sinful authority.  (See the articles section for more detailed exposition of these crucial principles)

Scripture: Where in God’s Word is corporate discipline taught?

From Adam to Zion, Genesis to the Revelation, God reveals that man is never independent and autonomous.  God created man to exist in an interdependent and corporate social system of delegated authority.  Authority always means accountability, commands, and consequences, which at times necessitate corporate discipline.

Gen 1-3; 4:9; Lev 19:2; Josh 7 (Achan); Pro 11:13; 18:13 & 17; Psa 133; Mat 5:9, 21-26; 7:1-5; 18:15-20; 28:18-20; Rom 8:28-29; 15:14; 16:17; 1 Co 5:4-13; 2 Co 2:1-11; 7:1-12; Gal 6:1-2; 1 Th 5:14; 2 Th 3; 1 Ti 1:20; 5:19-20; 2 Ti 2:17-18; Titus 3:9-11; 1 Pet 1:13-19; 4:8; Heb 3:12-13, 10:24; 13:7 & 17; Rev 2:14-16; etc. . . . . ).

Definition:    What is church discipline?  (Being our brother's keeper.)

It’s God’s delegated process of disciplined discipleship, to © L.E.A.D. His chosen children to restoration and maturity in Christ’s character, for His glory and their benefit - through Loving, Equipping, Accountability, & Discipline.

Is your church a disciplined or an undisciplined church? 

Loving and equipping, without accountability and discipline, is not the way of God's love. Accountability and discipline, without loving and equipping, is not God's way of discipline.

"What must be said at the outset is that discipline is not contrary to love but, an expression of love, when properly applied. Our culture is quick to use labels, such as, "mean-spirited," "harsh," and "proud" against those who exercise discipline. We are prone to confuse love with sentimentality, thinking that love is always accepting, soft, and tolerant. Some parents commit this error in raising their children, and so are reluctant to correct and admonish them. They shower their children with gifts and give them everything they desire, and then wonder why their children are self-absorbed. Genuine love, of course, expresses itself through both encouragement and admonishment, both acceptance and correction. In the same way, when the church is functioning in a healthy manner, the members are both comforted and corrected." (The Southern Baptist Journal of Theology, Vol. 4, No. 4, Winter 2000 Church Discipline, p. 2 "Loving Discipline", by Thomas R. Scheiner, Ph.D., professor of New Testament at the SBTS.)

Examples:    What kinds of situations need more than words?
(Three categories:  Doctrine - Purity - Unity)

Non-attendance was once a common cause for church accountability and discipline, but not today, when churches have large debts and many of the absent "members" still send in a check.

None of man’s church discipline efforts are perfect, but God’s Way always "works" to His glory & the edification of those who love Him.

Examples of "honor by restoration" - 
God is glorified when repentant people are restored.

Singles & sex: 
Many modern singles, even evangelical churches, have fallen into patterns of sexual sin.  Biblical counseling involves both teaching them the truth about purity, as well as loving them enough to not tolerate sin.  It's a wonderful testimony to the world, when they see a single Christian choose to walk in purity for God's glory, and out of true love for others.  Often the rod of shame, lovingly administered in the process of church discipline, is necessary to help a single person overcome the powerful pressure of sexual temptation.  Just as my immature children, who love to play in the street, sometimes need the rod in addition to teaching about the danger of cars, church members sometimes need the rod of church discipline.
Angry man:  How many of you can think of a church member, deacon, or even pastor who is known around town to have a volatile temper.  You know what I mean.  I'm talking about that person who "looses it" in the Wal-Mart line if it takes too long, or blows out at drivers who get in their way on the road, or the person who has lost many jobs because of a lack of self-control.  When this kind of a person becomes a patient, kind, and gentle man, then his friends start asking what happened, and the door is open for an awesome testimony of God's provision.

Drunkard wife:  What can a man do if his "Christian" wife regularly turns to alcohol to make herself "feel" better?  What if she doesn't respond to his prayers, pleas, and suggestions?  The process of church accountability and discipline is perfectly designed by our Lord to provide an extra measure of motivation for repentance, change, and growth.  And when a drunkard turns around, not only is God glorified, but often people's lives are protected.

Examples of "honor by separation" - 
God is glorified when unrepentant people are removed.

Singles & sex: 
Many "Christian" singles refuse to give up their habit of selfish fornication, and sadly, many churches tolerate this sin pattern.  In some churches, such sinning singles are even allowed to sing in choir, teach Sunday School, or even lead the "singles groups".  But when a church lovingly works through the entire process of accountability and discipline with a continually unrepentant person and ultimately disfellowships him, others see the glory of God's holy love reflected through His church.
Divisive woman:  Whenever pastors have talked with me about the "negative" aspects of pastoring, one of the first examples they give is that of divisive gossips (often women) who have created problems in their churches for years.  Many of these examples involve people who were very active, often teachers and leaders in the church.  Why was such a pattern of disunity allowed to continue?  How many people have left churches after experiencing the pain produced by this kind of predatory pattern?  Our Father's reputation is dependent on how we respond to these kinds of problems and the people who perpetuate them.  Sometimes the only way to honor our Lord is through separation.  God is glorified when unrepentant gossips are removed, because the peace of God then becomes the experiential character of that local church family.

Examples of dishonor by failing to practice church discipline -

Homosexual man: 
I know of a situation in which a man left his wife for another man, in order to pursue an "alternative" lifestyle.  When I tried to confront him in love and even begged him to turn away from that sin, he said he had not yet decided what to do.  I gently but firmly told him that because I cared about him and God's glory, that I could not continue to fellowship with him, until he repented.  He was furious and told me that he had many "Christian" friends who "loved" him and still fellowshipped with him while he lived in sin with another man.  With deep grief, I warned him that his friends and his "partner" where not showing God's real, holy love.  A few weeks later he discovered that the man he lived with had lied and not told him that he'd had AIDS for a long time.  If all of his Christian friends had lovingly confronted him from the very start of his temptation, and told him he'd have to choose between sin or his Christian family?  The pressure of being cut off from the close fellowship of his family might have kept him from the wages of sin - which is death.

Predatory pastors, counselors, & youth ministers: 
Far too often, men in ministry, especially those trusted with a large measure of oversight and spiritual care for impressionable, vulnerable young women are being caught having betrayed that trust.  The very idea of men being placed in such positions directly over women should make us stop and think!  Never before in the history of God's people have women been placed under the intimate spiritual care of men other than their own husbands, fathers or older brothers.  Titus 2 tells us that older women, not men, are to directly disciple the younger women.  So instead of describing to you many of the tragically true stories about predatory pastors, instead I plead with you to prayerfully consider the above concerns.

Pastor’s rebellious kids: 
Being a PK (pastor's kid) is a very difficult role to live out, especially because of the many expectations coming not only from the parents, but also from other Christian families in the church and even from unbelieving friends.

So, this example of pastoral parenting involves a serious pattern of sin that has become far too common, and is so often covered up or even tolerated.  As I have traveled around the country presenting family soulcare seminars, I've heard many stories about the dishonor caused by some PK's (pastor's kids), who for many years continued to be out of control, disrespectful, and disobedient.  I'm not talking about just a brief period in which a pastor's child struggles with rebellion and then is soon brought under joyful submission by his father's application of biblical counseling principles.  I'm talking about many examples of families, where the kids continue to rebel in escalating ways, and their pastor/father either tries to hide it from the church, hoping it will go away, or worse seeks psychotherapeutic methods to correct it instead of biblical counseling.  The Word of God in 1 Tim 3 and Titus 1 sets strict qualifications for those who would serve as pastoral elders over the "family" of God, and these qualifications center around the man's track record of leadership in his own home.  According to those Scriptural qualifications, he is to have shown faithfulness to his wife (literally, " a one woman man"), and it further says that all of his children are to be in full submission.  Pastoral elders are the pinnacle representatives of our Lord, to both believers and unbelievers.

By the way, there is a biblical solution to this problem.  If a pastoral elder cannot win the heart of his rebel child after a reasonably brief time period, he should seek the counsel of men who have successfully raised their children.  If he still cannot win the heart of his rebel and thus gain control of his home, then he should step down temporarily as pastor over the church, and devote his time to pastoring his rebellious child.  The other pastoral elders and/or other men in the church should take up the slack regarding the pastor's church duties, while the pastor continues to focus on his wayward child. This not only protects God's reputation, but demonstrates to the rebellious child that "Dad's" ministry to his lost lamb at home is more important than his "career".

If the child continues to rebel and it appears that it will be a long term problem, the pastor should seek secular employment, until his home is again in order.  I know of numerous examples where this process has been practiced, and the testimony to God's love and holiness had a powerful impact on the rebellious child, the church, and the surrounding community. 

Example of False Views of God:
Today, the # 1 most dangerous infection within the Body of Christ, that will increasingly require the protective, immune process of church accountability and discipline, is a false view of God.  A man-made image of a generic "higher power" is rapidly replacing the truth about the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Israel who has revealed Himself in Scripture.  So many today merely toss around phrases like, "God Bless America", yet they include Allah, Buddha, and other false deities within its meaning.  The whole world is now looking for peace and talking about the coming "Christ", but they usually don't mean Jesus of Nazareth.

Difficulties:    Why is it so simple, yet so hard to do well?

We must balance love (the L. & E.) with holiness (the A. & D.).
We must not blow up or give up, but march forward and then stand firm as needed. Preferential differences are often confused with "sins".  ("right in their own eyes") Fear of legalities must be overcome with wisdom & trust in God’s sovereignty (1 Pet 2).        

"Fear of lawsuits and lacking courage, these churches allow sin to go unconfronted, and heresy to grow unchecked.  Inevitably, the false unity they seek to preserve gives way to the factions that inevitably follow the gradual abandonment of biblical Christianity."  (p. 26) (The Southern Baptist Journal of Theology, Vol. 4, No. 4, Winter 2000 Church Discipline, "Church Discipline:  The Missing Mark", by R. Albert Mohler, Jr., Ph.D.)

* See also:

Jay A. Quine, (Article) "Court Involvement in Church Discipline" (Part I), Bibliotheca Sacra: Volume 149, Issue 593, (Dallas, TX: Dallas Theological Seminary) 1992. (Part II - Issue 594).

Ken Sande, The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict (Book) http://www.hispeace.org (Peacemakers Ministries has many related resources, including sample legal documents, etc.)

The Southern Baptist Journal of Theology, Vol. 4, No. 4, Winter 2000 Church Discipline, pp. 60-75  "Church Discipline and the Courts", by Wayne House, J.D., Th.D.)

History:    How well has God’s ekklesia functioned for 2,000 years?

Corinth? (1 Cor 5:9-13 too much L. & E.; 2 Cor 2:1-11 too much A. & D.)

Roman Catholicism?  Horrific extremes:  crusades, inquisitions, with leaders who were infamous for immorality.

Reformation?  Post-Reformation

"If no society or even a moderate family can be kept in a right state without discipline, much more necessary is it in the church whose state ought to be the best order possible.  Hence as the saving doctrine of Christ is the life of the church so discipline is as it were its sinews; for to it is owing that the members of the body adhere together each in its own place.  Wherefore all who either wish that discipline were abolished or who impede the restoration of it, whether they do this of design or thoughtlessness, certainly aim at the complete devastation of the church."  (John Calvin, Institutes, Vol. 2, p. 453).

"Most of our churches do not wish to tolerate sin and heresy. In many churches immoral members receive attention from the pastor and other leaders. The leaders put them through counseling and remove them from committees and public roles. But immorality and heresy rarely jeopardize membership. Churches in practice deny their authority to judge the belief and behavior of individual members. This was not always the case. Before the twentieth century Baptist churches in the South exercised strict authority over the behavior and belief of their individual members. They expressed this authority primarily in the practice of church discipline." (The Southern Baptist Journal of Theology, Vol. 4, No. 4, Winter 2000 Church Discipline, p. 4 "Southern Baptists and Church Discipline", by Gregory A. Wills, Ph.D.,
professor of Church History at the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary.)

Today? The process is nearly extinct, yet it is being rediscovered.
* Many of God’s churches are attempting to re-form His Way.

"Baptists drew encouragement in their practice however from reflecting on the benefits of discipline. The benefits, they felt, were basically three: discipline kept the churches pure and thereby glorified Christ; discipline aided the offenders themselves; and discipline fostered revival and the conversion of sinners." (The Southern Baptist Journal of Theology, Vol. 4, No. 4, Winter 2000 Church Discipline, p. 8 "Southern Baptists and Church Discipline", by Gregory A. Wills, Ph.D., professor of Church History at the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary.)

"At the end of the twentieth century, the great task of the church is to prove itself to be the genuine church revealed in the New Testament - proving its authenticity by a demonstration of pure faith and authentic community.  We must regain the New Testament concern for fidelity of doctrine, purity of life and unity of fellowship.  We must recover the missing mark." (The Southern Baptist Journal of Theology, Vol. 4, No. 4, Winter 2000 Church Discipline, p. 26,"Church Discipline:  The Missing Mark", by R. Albert Mohler, Jr., Ph.D., president of Southern Baptist Theological Seminary.)

Process:    What is God’s procedure for applying church discipline?

General Scope of the process =

Seven Simple Steps for Loving Accountability
(Simple, yet not easy)

1. Cover (1 Pet 4:8)
2. Confront (Mat 18:15)
3. Confirm (Mat 18:16)
4. Condemn (Mat 18:17)
5. Cutoff (Mat 18:17)
6. Continue (Mat 5:43-48)
7. Rest (Mat 11:28-30)

Preventative:  teaching/praying for one another to practice self-discipline.
Formative:  being our brother's keeper with training and accountability.
Corrective:  under the oversight of the pastoral elder brothers for our Father's honor.

If the person remains unrepentant, you must move to the next step.
Yet time between steps must be prayerfully determined on a case by case basis.

1. Cover (1 Pet 4:8)  Minor and/or non-habitual sins.

"The Bible says that "love covers over a multitude of sins."  As pragmatic Americans, we sometimes seem to think that size covers over a multitude of sins.  We often assume that if a church is large or at least is growing, then it must be a good church." (The Southern Baptist Journal of Theology, Vol. 4, No. 4, Winter 2000 Church Discipline, p. 38,"Biblical Church Discipline", by Mark Dever, pastor of Capitol Hill Baptist Church in Washington, D.C.)

2. Confront (Mat 18:15)  Serious or habitual sins that dishonor God and/or harm that person or others.

What would you say to begin this care-fronting process?  How can you balance both holiness and love?
Example:  "My friend, because I care about you, I need to clarify a concern I have.  I know I could be wrong, so would you please sit down and talk with me about it and help me to understand the situation."

3. Confirm (Mat 18:16)  A maximum of three (go get one or two more).

Who should go?  Gender specific (man to man), or couple to couple, or a man to a woman's husband (her head).
Those who go should be mature and knowledgeable in the Word.

What should be the agenda?  To clarify whether or not it truly involves sin, and if it is serious enough to be confronted.  Many times at this level in the process the extra people might determine that it was an issue that should have been overlooked.  Then they might even rebuke the original confronter, especially if he/she had a habit of too quickly confronting people.

4. Condemn (Mat 18:17)  As a brother, not yet as an unbeliever.

2 Th 3:14-15  At this point the person is still treated as a believing member of our Father's family. Pastoral elders should be involved now, exercising the authority delegated to them (Heb 13:7 & 17). The offender must now choose between his sin or fellowship with our Father's family.

"Move Their Letter" ??  Dr. Wills on p. 5 of the SBTS journal discusses the fact that such a person should not be allowed to simply "move their letter", in order to avoid facing the coming consequences of being cutoff.  That would destroy the very design of the Lord's discipline process, and reduce it to an impotent waste of time.

5. Cutoff (Mat 18:17)  From the Father's family fellowship.

1 Cor 5:5 says the purpose of this cutting off is so that the person might be saved. He is to be treated as an unbeliever, and not allowed to participate in the Lord's Supper.  Sadly, most modern churches, especially very large ones, have reduced the Lord's Supper to a rare and individualized ritual.  But it was instituted by our Lord to be the most intimate time of fellowship, to be shared often with believers who not only know one another like family, but know by mutual accountability who is walking in sin and who is not.
Mat 16 & 18 both refer to the authority given to the leadership of a local church to bind or loose according to the objective mandates of Holy Scripture.
If the person remains unrepentant at this point, his excommunication is to be publicly declared and his name deleted from the roles (if a written role is kept). (Philip 3:17-19; James 4:4-10)

6. Continue (Mat 5:43-48)  To love even those who act like our enemies.

There are many ways we can continue to reach out to those who are now publicly labeled as unbelievers. We are to love them, pray for them, and do good to them. When we run into them in the community, we are to be friendly and polite, yet when appropriate ask them if they have now decided to follow Jesus as Lord.

7. Rest (Mat 11:28-30)  Leaving the results in God's sovereign hands.

God is in control, and nothing sneaks past Him.  We do not need to manipulate or worry, but simply follow His directions.  We can't change someone's heart.  But we are expected to enforce godly behavior and doctrine.  God's process of church discipline is perfect, and if applied properly it will always "work" to glorify Him, edify those who love Him (Rom 8:28-29).  Whether it be honor by restoration, or honor by separation, God will be glorified by our obedience.  Dishonor comes only when we fail in the responsibility to balance Loving, Equipping, Accountability, and Discipline.

General principles:    What will keep us in God’s biblical balance?

- Humbly submit, take the log out of your own eye first, & clarify all along the way.
(Church discipline is delicate eye surgery, requiring gentleness & sensitivity.)
- When a brother neglects self-discipline, then corporate/family discipline is needed.
- Remember, the goal is always restoration for God’s glory.
- The time frame must be prayerfully flexible, adapted, & Spirit-led.
- It is your "business", since it affects our Father’s honor & others’ lives.
- It works best for all if it’s overseen by a group of men, not just one lone pastor.
- Give "law" to the proud, but mercy & grace to the humble.
- Keep things conditionally confidential (commanded by Scripture- no gossip!)

What about seriously sinful leaders? 
(1 Tim 5:17-20; remember that Timothy was the personal emissary of an apostle, Paul, and carried a unique authority.  Even so, he was told in 1 Tim 5:1 not to rebuke an older man.  Why?)

Whether it's a child to a parent, a wife concerned about her husband, or a church member needing to deal with a sinning pastor, a person under rank is never to rebuke a person above them.  God's process for dealing with a sinful authority is the process of appeal.  The authority represents God through His delegated authority and that position of rank must be addressed uniquely for God's honor.  The subordinate person is first to appeal to the authority, respectfully (especially beginning with questions for clarification and conviction).  Then if the authority does not turn from the serious sin pattern, the subordinate person should appeal above him.
**  I'll be publishing online a booklet on this subject soon, the Lord willing.

Self-Examination:    How are you doing with disciplined discipleship?

    Personally?  In Your Family?  In Your Church?  In Your Denomination?

". . . . without a recovery of functional church discipline - firmly established upon the principles revealed in the Bible - the church will continue its slide into moral dissolution and relativism."
(The Southern Baptist Journal of Theology, Vol. 4, No. 4, Winter 2000 Church Discipline, p. 16, "Church Discipline:  The Missing Mark", by R. Albert Mohler, Jr., Ph.D.)

It will, in fact, become irrelevant, unless it rediscovers, repents, and re-forms its modern methods according to our Father's design for disciplined discipleship that will effectively © L.E.A.D. His chosen children to restoration and maturity in Christ’s character, for His glory and their benefit, - through Loving, Equipping, Accountability, & Discipline.

Resources:    Where can you get more in-depth information?

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The Southern Baptist Journal of Theology, Winter 2000, Vol. 4, No. 4, "Church Discipline". (For copies call SBTS 1-800-626-5525, or http://www.sbts.edu/news/sbjt/winter2000/winter2000.html)
Jay Adams, Handbook for Church Discipline.
John H. Armstrong, ed., Reforming Pastoral Ministry, "How Shall I Respond to Sin in the Church",
Ch. 12, by Joseph Flatt, Jr., pp. 217-238. Crossway, 2001.
_____ Also by Armstrong, Can Fallen Pastors Be Restored?
Richard Baxter, The Reformed Pastor, http://www.ccel.org/b/baxter/pastor/home.html
John Broger, Self-Confrontation: A Manual for In-Depth Discipleship. www.bcfministries.org
John Calvin, Institutes of the Christian Religion, Translated by Henry Beveridge,
One Volume, Book Fourth, Chapter XII, pp. 452- 471. Eerdmans, 1989.
Mark Devers, Nine Marks of a Healthy Church, Ch. 7, "Biblical Church Discipline", pp. 153-180. Crossway, 2000.
J. Hampton Keathley III. (Article), "Church Discipline", http://www.bible.org/docs/theology/eccles/churdisc.htm
Steve Lawson, Made in Our Image: What Shall We Do with a "User-Friendly" god? Multnomah, 2000.
Wayne Mack (booklet) The Biblical Concept of Church Discipline. (To order: strengtheningmin@aol.com)
______ Also, by Dr. Mack, Life in the Father’s House.
John MacArthur, Jr., General Editor, Pastoral Ministry: Shaping Contemporary Ministry with Biblical Mandates.
Wayne McCraw, (booklet) Biblical Church Discipline: Questions and Answers for Concerned Church Members.
Old Forest Road Baptist Church, Lynchburg, VA (804) 385-7413
Orthodox Presbyterian Church BOOK OF DISCIPLINE, http://www.opc.org/BOCO/BOD.html#Chapter_I
Jay A. Quine, (Article) "Court Involvement in Church Discipline" (Part I), Bibliotheca Sacra: 
Volume 149, Issue 593, (Dallas, TX: Dallas Theological Seminary) 1992. (Part II - Issue 594).
Ken Sande, The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict (Book), (http://www.HisPeace.org)
(Peacemakers Ministries has many related resources, including sample legal documents, etc.)
Gregory A. Wills, Democratic Religion: Freedom, Authority, and Church Discipline in the Baptist South 1785-1900,
Oxford University Press, 1996.