Good Shepherd
Initiative

FREE Since 1983

Sid Galloway BS, M.Div. (Biograhical Information)
Just an OLD sheepdog
of our Good Shepherd Creator Christ

Ask the animals,
and they will teach you,
.. Which of all these
does not know
that the LORD's hand
has done this?
In His hand is the
soul (nephesh)
of every creature and the breath of all mankind"
Job 12:7-9

Worldview
of your
Good Shepherd
Creator: Christ
Human Trafficking & Slavery
Don't Just Happen
(Jesus said in Mark 7:21-23)

Would a "good" God design
"survival of the fittest"
as His WAY?
(Isaiah 65:25)

Rights - Any discussion about human rights (slavery, oppression) or animal rights (cruelty, abuse) must first address our Creator's rights. He has the right to command how we treat both His people and His animals.

Scotty the Good Shepherd
Service Sheepdog


3 Videos Animal Friends * *
Otis ----- Zoe ---- River


Suzy service-dog genius
(more below)

Responsibilities - Jesus said the root cause of suffering in this world is a distorted view of and/or the rejection of the true WAY of our Creator. (John 8:1-59)

sidotter


"Squirt" the Otter


Releasing rehabbed critters


Atchafalaya Swamp

Mistakes - Man's self-serving, misguided, mischaracterizations of God have historically led to personal and cultural conflict, corruption, and collapse.

Hope - Discovering the WHO?, the WHY?, and the "WAY"? of origins is the foundation for true transformation.

Mike's "service-frog"


Therapy Zorse & Zeedonk

Change - Truly lasting change for individuals and cultures must begin at the cornerstone - the Creator of creation.


Darwin's Self-image
by Mike Galloway


Formal"Boatie" - Lizaboa

"Then I looked again
at all the acts of oppression
which were being done
under the sun.
And behold I saw
the tears
of the oppressed
and that they had
no one to comfort them;
and on the side of their
oppressors was power,
but they had
no one to comfort them."
Ecclesiastes 4:1


Wild Rory - paralyzed by gun shot yet grateful
for loving care

raccoon_river_sidarms


L'l River raccoon


"Flower"


Candy-cane corn snake


Opossum Brothers:
Tom & Jerry


Brother Tom


Animal-Assisted GSI



Scotty my service dog
assistant :-)


Scotty doing his job well


God's living teddy-bears


Missing the old days


My Proverbs 31 wife
meeting my old girlfriend, elephant "Jean"


Old friends Jean & Panya meet my daughter


Jean meets her keeper's son



Mandy Clouded Leopard who saved me from suicide


My morning greeters
Akela & Rakshi
Back in the den they'd beg me to rub their heads
to start the day.


Shiva -my PTSD leopard
raised by humans, terrified of other leopards


Bratar:the cowardly lion


Rani: Bratar's sister :-(

Banu - my favorite comedian who loved to prank people


Candra, Banu's mom


Banu teasing Candra


Byomi asking for a treat


Ali the bitter black panther who learned love


Zoe: disabled squirrel
born with no tail / only 3 feet
- even more lovable


Scotty meets his first gator


Marriage in Christ


Suzy protecting her rescued puppy


Molly the semi-blind Opossum Lady


Little Blue
- transferred to Fed. rehab


Big Red
- gunshot wound


Baby Huey acting tough


Scotty's piggy


Rescuing Stubby
(see his Facebook page)


Audubon Zoo memories


Lizaboa Animal Assistant


David & elephant Panya


Mr. Galloway
Old Sheepdog


Charlie
Russian Legless Lizard


Hawk - Barron
powerful talons


Otis - hit by car


Little River as a baby


Little River
working on the lock

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



 

 

 

 

 

 


 

 

 

 

 

GSI - Good Shepherd Initiative - Homepage

GOD'S GIFT OF SAFE SEXUALITY (ONENESS IN MARRIAGE)

Biologically, Psychologically, Spiritually

(See also: Forgiveness, Counseling Resources, Personal Counseling, Family Counseling, Disability Purposes, DisabilityResources)

"Now Adam knew Eve his wife,
and she conceived and bore Cain. . . . "
Genesis 4:1


Our GOOD Shepherd Creator & Law-Giver Christ
has designed His created universe (and us) with laws (HIS WAY)
to give us joyful, abundant life.
BREAKING HIS LAWS ENDS UP BREAKING US & OTHERS:

"There is a WAY that seems right to a person,
but its end is the way of DEATH/destruction".
Proverbs 14:12; 16:25


Remember Men,
You can't find satisfaction in superficial sexuality.
Intimate Romance is important to your wife.
And if you really work at it, your own fulfillment
will continue to grow deeper and deeper.

How?
Make God, who is the Creator of sexuality, a part of your love life!
PRAY and praise together about God's gift to you of marital intimacy.


Outline:

1 -  Why do so few couples experience true sexual fulfillment?
2 -  Perfectly designed - to drive each other crazy? 
3 -  Why do many seek fulfillment through immorality? 
4 -  How to communicate heart to heart
5 -  G.A.P. - Guided Application Project
6 -  A Few Cautions

 


1 - Why do so few couples experience true sexual fulfillment?
Sex is a precious gift designed by God, and He wants to be Lord even over our sex life (Gen. 1-2; Song of Solomon). Men and women are created differently, to balance the relationship. Men are created very visual and respond quickly. Women respond more to touch, words, and atmosphere. God uses the fact that women respond more slowly to help encourage the building of intimacy, which takes time. Part of dying to self is working to become what your husband or wife needs (i.e., romantic, losing weight, dressing to please your spouse, etc., 1Cor 7:1-5).

In Ephesians 5:31-32, God's Word tells us the highest picture of intimacy between Christ and His Church is the "one flesh" relationship of husband and wife. Does sex have anything to do with God's glory (Eph 1:6; 12; 14)?  In Christian circles, it seems that the subject of sexual counseling is often treated in one of two extremes. It's either ignored, or it degenerates into a mirror image of the world's advice. What makes this even more tragic is that the Bible contains the very counsel couples need, because it is counsel from the Creator of sex.

First of all, realize that marriage and sex are not forever. In Matthew 22:30, Jesus says, "For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels of God in heaven." But don't be discouraged. Remember the Ephesians 5:31-32 statement about the relationship of Christ and the church pictured in the "one flesh" union of husband and wife. Even the physical pleasure of marital intimacy is part of this picture of the spiritual intimacy we (the church) will have in heaven with Christ. So, the absence of sex in heaven won't bother anyone, because full spiritual intimacy with Christ will be incomprehensibly satisfying (John 17:3; 1Cor 13:12). The pleasure of physical intimacy here on earth will pale in comparison to the awesome experience of knowing God fully (1Cor 13:12).

The world is obsessed with sex as the key to fulfillment. Yet, spiritual intimacy with God is the real answer to sexual fulfillment (Heb 13:4). The quality of our life and relationships - now and forever - depends on Jesus. "And this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent" (John 17:3).

Proverbs 18:22
"He who finds a wife, finds a good thing,
and obtains favor from the LORD."

Proverbs 19:13
"Houses and riches are the inheritance of fathers,
but a virtuous wife is from the LORD."

Matthew 7:24-27 [Jesus said] “Therefore whoever hears these sayings of Mine, and does them, I will liken him to a wise man who built his house on the rock: “and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it did not fall, for it was founded on the rock. “But everyone who hears these sayings of Mine, and does not do them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand: “and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it fell. And great was its fall.”

pyramid foundation ............. pyramid foolish

So, true sexual intimacy must be dependent on the depth of spiritual intimacy the husband and wife maintain together with God. Your prayerful, active submission to the Lord is a prerequisite for sexual oneness (Eph 5:18). We no longer have to be naked, ashamed, and divided (Gen 3).  Through submission to the Holy Spirit, we can enjoy the union Adam and Eve experienced before their rebellion.  But when we selfishly pull from one another to feel loved and fulfilled, we pull the relationship apart. Instead, each spouse must draw from God's Spirit and let His love overflow as a gift to the other (John 15:4-5; Rom 5:5-8; Gal 2:20; 4:19; 5:22-25; Eph 5:18).


2 - Perfectly designed - to drive each other crazy?

Have you ever felt like your spouse was perfectly designed to drive you crazy? Good news, the truth is we are actually designed to drive each other to God! We are like two gears that must mesh together for the machine to flow as designed. What's needed is the right source of power (Acts 1:8), and the right knowledge to make the gears fit (John 17:17). Living with another person who thinks, acts, feels, and remembers very differently provides many opportunities for self-denial. Our goal must be holiness first and happiness only as a result. Someone once shared a great tool for remembering the biblical priorities for unconditional happiness, J.O.Y.. If you seek to please Jesus first, Others second, and Yourself third, then and only then is true joy possible. We must choose to live separately in character from this selfish world. We are to deny our "rights" and desires, submitting to the Spirit as He lives His servant love through us (Luke 9:23-26; Gal 5:16-25; Eph. 4:30). Gratefully embracing our spouse as a gift designed to drive us to God is the key toward intimacy (Rom 8:28-29).


3 - Why do many seek fulfillment through immorality?
Emotionally safe sex is ONLY possible under the covering of a life-long covenant commitment with God as authority. Then and only then is the fear of rejection and abandonment reduced (Gen. 2:25; Heb 13:5). The fear of the Lord protects against the sinful tendency to look for greener grass when temptation arises.

God's way to sexual fulfillment works by reaching deeper, spiritually, to build soul to soul intimacy. Man's way merely deceives, by grasping for more at the surface level: a new person, a kinky activity, or pornography, etc.. But this kind of a search won't satisfy. It leads to an ever increasing cycle of frustration. It often ends in immorality which the person or couple would never have considered years before.

In contrast, God's way is to build a stable home like a three-level pyramid. When severe earthquakes recently shook Egypt, modern skyscrapers fell. But the pyramids stood firm. Why? Because of the geometric ratio of the foundation to the apex. You can't push it over! Likewise, God's kind of marriage should rest on a heavy emphasis (Mat 7: 24-29) of spiritual intimacy wrapped around the Lord's holy, agape love (Eccl 4:9-12). God's love is a self-sacrificial attitude that finds its greatest joy in giving to another. Then on this basis, the couple is to build mutual friendship (Deut 24:5) as they communicate and learn more of one another's needs and desires (Eph 4-5). Finally, as the by product of the first two levels, sexual attraction and technique should play only a peripheral role (Desire - epithumia, Mat 5:28; 13:17; Luke 22:15; ). Sexual attraction is to be the fruit growing out of the first two levels. But, man's "natural" way creates an upside down pyramid. Can you imagine how easily such a structure will be toppled by a little quake or storm? That's why people keep "falling in and out of love". If the self-focused physical aspects become the foundation, then one serious car accident or fire devastates the couple's intimacy, unnecessarily.

None of this is to say that the physical should be ignored. It just needs to be in the right priority. We are each to present our physical bodies the very best they can be for God and our spouse (1Cor 6:19-20; 7:1-4). Also there are some basic medical facts that help in understanding and enjoying the God designed physical differences between men and women. For a very practical and biblical resource for information on the physiological aspects of sex, see the book, INTENDED FOR PLEASURE, by Ed Wheat, MD..


4 - How to communicate heart to heart

We can't read minds. So we must personally reveal our heart in communication to better know one another. Prayer is communication with God and is essential to knowing one another. When we recommend to couples that they pray before, during, and after making love they often look shocked. They seem to have the attitude that sex and prayer should be mutually exclusive activities. But our Creator desires to share all of life with us. Prayer is submission under God's authority, and encourages the denial of selfishness, and the forgiveness of any unresolved resentments. Bitterness is like acid on the one flesh relationship.

Many biblical books are available to help couples learn to communicate in a Christ-like manner. Wayne Mack's book, Your Family God's Way, is an excellent example. Just remember, the key to communication is heart attitude not the number of memorized skills. We prove this fact every time the phone rings during a childish argument with our spouse. We straighten up and politely answer the phone, because we want to look good publicly. Motive determines behavior (Heb 4:12). And the right motive, loving God and neighbor above self, will produce consistently Spirit-filled communication.


5 - G.A.P. - Guided Application Project

Homework to bridge the GAP
between faith and works.
To "Know" One Another Sexually

Some couples have experienced such tension, misunderstanding, and hurt that their sex life is non-existent. In that case, a safe way to renew sexual activity is to plan a night to simply enjoy the non-sexual sharing of physical closeness.
For example you could either:
Hold one another (clothed or unclothed) in bed.
Give one another a back rub massage.

[Be sensitive to one another with NO expectations, & don't criticize!]

Pray for sexual intimacy. Let God be involved. Pray before, during, & after (1Thes 5:17). Patiently submitting to God. * Ask for forgiveness for failing to let Christ love through you in the past. We have all failed to fully let Christ live His love through us. So be sure to ask God & one another for forgiveness as needed. Let Go & have fun!

Learning To Talk About Sex -

Questions To Ask Your Spouse

Conversation?
1. What do you believe is right vs. wrong sexual language (Eph 5:4)?
2. What conversation makes you feel the most comfortable?
3. What conversation makes you feel the most loved?
4. What conversation makes you feel sexually attractive?

Direct & to the point (Proverbs 5:18-19; Song of Solomon 7:7)?
Indirect & subtle (Song of Solomon 4:12-13)?

Serious or silly? (There is nothing inherently or biblically wrong with child-like & silly talk in the sexual relationship. But learn what your spouse likes and don't over-use silly joking to avoid serious intimacy)

Atmosphere?
1. Dim light? Candle light? No light? Lots of Light?
2. Quiet & no music? Music? What kind of music?
3. The bedroom? Or some other room? Shower? Or some other place???
4. Spontaneous & spur of the moment, or a planned event?

Actions?
1. What are appropriate sexual behaviors according to Scripture & medical hygiene say (Heb 13:4)?
2.  Do you exercise & eat right so you can present your body as the best gift you can to your spouse (1Cor 7:1-5)? 
3.  Where, when, & what kind of touch is pleasurable?

- Be creative, The possibilities are endless... Talk, openly so you can learn.

Initiating?
1. Do you feel insecure initiating? Why?
2. What is the best way? Directly with words? What words should you use? - Practice using phrases that emphasize your desire to share intimacy, not just a desire for your own sexual physical pleasure. Especially you men.
3. Indirectly with touch? What kind of touch should I use? - Remember, physical communication does not, and should not always mean you want to have sex. We also need to learn non-sexual ways of expressing love physically (massage, hugs, etc.).
4. By preparing the bedroom...etc?
5. By a card or love note?


6 - A FEW CAUTIONS:

* Crude, sarcastic joking (Eph 5:4) hurts and avoids intimacy.
* Beware of cheap, quick substitutes for the hard work of romantic intimacy.
* Agape foreplay begins days before intercourse, especially for the ladies. If the atmosphere has not been loving (Eph 5:28-29) wives often aren't interested and cannot respond. Yet men are so visual, they can start thinking about sex even after a day of hurtful arguing.